Finding the Upside

The past couple of weeks have been very difficult ones for me. I am a little embarrassed to admit that I’ve fallen into a little (or a lot) of self pity. I don’t think I’ve mentioned on here yet but I am pregnant with a little girl due in Dec. (which by the way is not the reason for the self- pity). My husband and I are very excited. This pregnancy has been significantly easier than my first, but that says more about the difficulty of my first pregnancy rather than the ease of this one. I’ve still been quite sick but have been able to manage pretty well. However, I’ve found that when I travel (which has been a lot lately) it is really hard on me and takes days to recover. During this last trip home from Utah I caught a really bad cough that I have now had for 2 weeks and am just barely starting to get over it. Because of the pregnancy, I can’t take anything for the cough or the junk in my lungs so I pretty much just get to enjoy the misery in its natural goodness (can you sense my self-pity yet?). This sickness has also brought nausea and vomiting which adds a whole extra layer of fun to the mix.

I would not classify myself as a silent sufferer. I’m normally quite vocal about these types of things. A few days ago while I was, we’ll say, not suffering in silence I saw a video on my Facebook news feed that seriously humbled me and helped change my attitude. The website Mormon.org has a Facebook page that every few days shares short inspirational quotes and videos. I recommend that you check it out, it’s how I saw this video.

What I love about this video is its simplicity. It is uplifting and positive in a very natural way. They are just happy people. Pierre Muller found the upside to his situation, and – the humor in it – ¬†which is even harder. He mentioned that it is because of his beliefs that he’s been able to find the upside. We believe that God created man with the intention of being happy and finding the joy in life. This can be a real challenge sometimes but through keeping the focus on the things that really matter–faith, family, and other things that bring joy, I believe it’s possible.

So I decided to find an upside to my situation. My upside is that I don’t normally watch a lot of TV but the last couple of weeks I’ve enjoyed a lot of cooking shows. Cooking is a big hobby of mine. Through having more down time to watch cooking shows I learned a lot of new cooking techniques and found a lot of new recipes that I am really excited to try. Had I not been sick I wouldn’t have learned those things. So what is your upside? If your week/day/year/current situation¬† has been less than ideal, what upside have you found to help you stay positive?

7 thoughts on “Finding the Upside

  1. Nancy

    These happy thoughts are a treasure that will influence me for a very long time. Thanks, Lindsey, for your frank and honest way of sharing them.

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  2. Hayley

    Lindsey, thanks so much! I have been stuck in a rut for months now, and little things like reading this help me to remember how simple life really is: The Gospel is true and people really do need each other.

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  3. Arthur Schopenhauer

    There is only one inborn erroneous notion … that we exist in order to be happy … So long as we persist in this inborn error … the world seems to us full of contradictions. For at every step, in great things and small, we are bound to experience that the world and life are certainly not arranged for the purpose of maintaining a happy existence … hence the countenances of almost all elderly persons wear the expression of … disappointment.

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    1. JS

      I most emphatically disagree!
      Joseph Smith: “Happiness is the object and design of our existence; and will be the end thereof, if we pursue the path that leads to it; and this path is virtue, uprightness, faithfulness, holiness, and keeping all the commandments of God.”

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  4. Nietzsche

    Lindsey:
    Thanks for deleting my comments! All of my remarks were factually accurate and I spent months researching into them. Its sad that a blog that claims as its purpose “discuss our various points of view” would censure comments merely because they called into question your preconceived notions. That kind of behavior I expect from repressive communist countries like China, but not from the supposed one true religion that can stand up against all scrutiny.

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    1. Lindsey

      We only delete comments when we feel they belittle or attack other members of the community and other commenters. We appreciate your discussion on our blog but we ask that all comments remain respectful of other comments and commenters. Thank you!

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  5. Jacob

    I know this post was written months ago- but I found it today and it was exactly what I needed. It was definitely an answer to prayer. The movie reminds me of my French grandpa who is constantly looking for the funny and positive things in life. We could all stand to be a little more like that.

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