What happens in a Mormon wedding?

While I was in Utah last week I attended 3 weddings (it must be spring time) so I have weddings on my mind. All three of these weddings were different from a typical wedding in that they all took place in Mormon  temples.  Much of what happens in Mormon (Latter-day Saint) temples is sacred and we believe it is inappropriate to talk about these sacred elements outside the temple but I want to share what I can.

How does a wedding in a Latter-Day Saint temple differ from a typical wedding? One of the biggest things is the production of it. There is no aisle to walk down, no music, no procession, no flowers or fan fair. It is a very simple ceremony. There are sealing rooms in the temples that are set apart for weddings (we call them sealing rooms because we are sealed together for all eternity). The room has an altar in the middle of it where the bride and groom will kneel to be married. On each side of the altar are chairs for guests to sit and watch. The bride and groom enter the room together after all the guests have arrived and the officiator normally talks to them and the guests for a few minutes about the sacred nature of marriage and then the actual ceremony begins.

All together, from the time the bride and groom enter the room to the time they leave it probably only takes 30 minutes. I personally love the simplicity of the ceremony because it leaves the focus on the marriage rather than the wedding. We believe that the covenant of marriage is the highest order of the gospel. As I mentioned earlier, the couple and their future children are sealed together for all time and eternity through the power of the priesthood. It is a sacred and real commitment to God to love and respect one’s spouse and family, one we believe we will be held accountable for.

At each wedding I attended I was in awe of the beauty of the marriage covenant. It is a powerful thing to commit yourself, your loyalty, and all that you are to another person. I believe my life is better because of this commitment. If you’ve ever seen a Latter-Day Saint temple you know that they are beautiful buildings, but what is more beautiful is what goes on inside of them. I am happy I got to share in the experience of those that I love and witness their special days.

4 thoughts on “What happens in a Mormon wedding?

  1. Brooke

    In addition to your wonderful comments Lindsay, I also had a lot of people ask me when I got married if we read/wrote each other vows. When I explain, people wonder why our church discourages the exchanging of vows. I think the promises we make in the ceremony are so much more beautiful and greater than anything we could promise to each other. Our Heavenly Father is giving us power to stay together for eternity and extra blessings to help us along the way.

  2. Ashley

    I was married in an LDS temple, and I really appreciated the intimacy of the ceremony. We had 50 or 60 people there, sitting in a close circle surrounding the alter where my husband and I knelt. The sealer talked in a very conversational manner about all the choices we’d make throughout our time together on earth. I loved his emphasis on everything in life being about choices — we have the power to determine what our marriage will be like every single day. The actual sealing ordinance, where we made important commitments to God, was a perfect follow-up to the words the sealer shared on choosing good every day.

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  4. Smita Kothari

    This reminded me of my wedding ceremony. I am not a Mormon and my wedding didn’t take place in a religious monument. However, it was in the presence of God in the form of fire. My husband and I took four circumambulations around fire, each round signifying a particular vow. Although it was my fantasy to walk down the aisle in a white gown which I knew would be almost impossible in my case (I’m an Indian and Jain by faith), it’s interesting how we both made God a witness to our weddings in different ways and venues! Thanks.


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