A Mormon’s Neon Hunting Vest

One thing that always gives a Mormon away is that we don’t drink alcohol. It’s bound to come up when we’re in social situations. Some people don’t really know what to think of it, but there are many different reactions. At my husband’s office holiday party one guy asked me while we were sitting on a party trolley and alcohol was in abundance, “I mean, it’s a personal decision right? You’re not judging me because I’m drinking and you’re not, right?” My response to him, “Of course, I wouldn’t be here otherwise.”

Many of my husband’s coworkers get together in bars and clubs. Even though he doesn’t drink he still goes along and enjoys the company and down time. I don’t run into the situation as often because I’m with my son most of the time and not many people drink at play dates. I hate the idea that people may feel that I am not drinking to either prove a point or to show moral superiority. That is not the case at all. I don’t drink for myself. It is a personal decision that is between God and me. That’s not to say that I have my own opinions about the negative affects of alcohol. Driving drunk? I’m just going to go out on a limb and say that it’s not good. Getting hammered every night or every weekend? Probably not a great idea. Addicted to alcohol? Get help. I’m a nurse as well a Mormon. I did rotations at a chemical detox facility. Alcohol can have extremely harmful effects on the mind and body. But, to be honest I really don’t think that social drinking has a huge societal or health impact. I still don’t drink.

But, just because I don’t drink alcohol and I think it can have negative health and societal effects does that mean I am judging everyone that drinks? Absolutely not. Do I think people are bad because they drink? Not at all. I understand that alcohol is a huge part of many people’s culture and I am not going around thinking, “sinner” every time I see someone drink. We can be friends even though we choose to live different lifestyles. You can have your wine or beer or your drink of choice and I’ll have my Perrier with lime and we can have a great time. I went out to dinner with some girlfriends this weekend and we declared that it was a judgment-free zone. We can each eat as much or as little as we want and we’re not going to judge each other on it. That’s how I see it with alcohol. I think we’d all prefer a judgment-free zone. I know I do.

About Lindsey

Lindsey is a wife and the mother of 2 beautiful children, a 3 year old boy and a new baby girl. Though she is not working right now, she is also a nurse and hopes to one day resume traveling with humanitarian groups when the time is right. Lindsey loves baking, cooking and eating wonderful food and day dreams of one day going to culinary school. She currently lives in the New England area with her family and loves being by the coast.
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5 Responses to A Mormon’s Neon Hunting Vest

  1. Erin says:

    I feel the same as you. I don’t think I could describe my opinions any differently (and definitely not as eloquently).

  2. Teppo says:

    Nice job, Lindsey! I agree with you and I think that was well put.

  3. Ashley says:

    I’m sometimes surprised how frequently people don’t ask questions when I decline the drinks offered. The times I most frequently want to explain myself are at restaurants, when I feel like the server is disappointed that my bill will be small because I won’t be ordering drinks!

  4. Kandou Erik says:

    Well I personally am judging every single drunk person around me!

    No, no I’m kidding. But people are afraid to step on people’s toes so much. It’s probably easier these days to get away with it, though, as there are so many people who aren’t Mormon but also don’t drink, or don’t drink a lot, because of the negative effects it can have.

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